I am grateful for a healthy, happy and loving family, for faithful friends who pray for me without asking, or send a kind word, show concern, prepare a meal, lend a hand or a great ear. I am thankful for illness recoveries of those I love, my father, mother, and Laurie.
This Thanksgiving is different as I’m mostly thankful for how God has opened my eyes to see and to feel compassion so deeply that it moves me to tears, dropped me to my knees and has changed my heart to not be so hardened. This year has been emotional, it’s been sad. This year has moved me from a place of complacency, changed me to a person of action and has witnessed that my relationships with people cannot be taken for granted, as I cannot know when anyone will be called home to the Father.
My dearest friend lost her son tragically this year, Tay was young, full of promise. A series of poor choices sent him and two other friends home to our Father. My heart aches for them. I have no idea what Joye feels, and I’m certain that anything I could possibly imagine could not come close to the reality of her pain. I’ve been amazed at how much grace pours from the family as they share their lives with their community. All I’ve been able to do is pray, and try to be an ear and a voice for her from far away.
Early this summer, a girlfriend lost her battle with cancer, Kay planned her own funeral which was a gentle shake to my soul. When we walked into the sanctuary, there was pictures of Kay everywhere, but no casket, no burial to follow. She wanted everyone to be assured that she was not physically in the church, she was with our Father celebrating her life with us from Heaven.
Also this summer, a young friend we knew from Woodstock was snatched from us at gunpoint by the man who claimed to love her. So much so, that if he couldn’t have her then no one else could either, including her two very young children. It didn’t matter to him that the children were present when he stole her life. He may have taken Shannon, but he did not take her spirit or testimony of faith. She lived it, and my heart breaks for her family and friends that so desperately miss her. I’m in awe of their faith and generosity in sharing her life, and a hope to bring Shannon’s life forward as a witness to any one who may be in an abusive and/or violent relationship.
Then I think of Laura, a sorority sister, who lost her battle with cancer and left behind her two young children this summer, and in awe of her families faithfulness to keep many people who knew her to keep close the promises of God. I had no idea Laura was sick until she was in Hospice, I wish I’d known sooner, but I didn’t, all I could do was pray for her and her family. They still send out words of encouragement to those who followed via Caring Bridge or sent condolences, even in their grief, they witness the love of God in how they reach others.
In our own family, my brother in law has lost his mother unexpectedly, and in his attempts to find a new normal, I just want to hug him and wish it all away.
Then the loss of my furry friend Dakota.
Although I’ve focused on the heartache and the losses, I’m filled with much promise and hope through witnessing God given strength provided to those who’s pain is so raw. I’m inspired to take care of my own health, to spend more time with my husband and children, to stand up for what I believe in, to lend a hand, to do things that I love and to make sure that my family and friends know I love them. God has been glorified through their experiences whether the families realize it or not. Through their grief, actions and response to their losses and challenges they have shown how much they deeply depend on God and have walked in faith with grace. It makes anything I have to complain about seem so trivial.
I wish that I could do more than pray and lend an ear or a simple helping hand. That I could find the right words of comfort beyond telling them I love them. Then I thought that perhaps they have come to know God so intimately because they know He would understand most, He has experienced the death of His son and would understand their anguish and give them comfort.
So this year, my Thanksgiving is known and I will focus on praising God for all he has provided and all that I have learned. I have one request of my friends and family and that is to pray earnestly for those who are hurting, ill, afraid, or missing a loved one this holiday season, they need our prayers to help them find comfort, understanding and continued strength as they seek out how to move on without the people they miss the most right now.
Pray that our young people make wise choices; That anyone in a bad relationship find the courage to get help, to stay safe from harm, and to make the changes they need to live without fear; Those who are orphaned find peace and love with their caretakers; Protection and grace on the care takers who have stepped up to continue the good works of those who have been ill or called home; That those who are ill find healing and comfort; That God anoint the hands, heart and minds of the doctors, nurses, military, police, and fire men who come to our rescue and care for us with confidence and grace. That we all turn towards those in need and not turn our head away and pretend it’s not real or talk yourself into believing that someone else is providing what they need. Lend a hand, even if all you can do is hold theirs for a moment.
God bless you and your family this Thanksgiving.